Well this year it would have been an 18 year marriage, but not to be. Despite the fact I stood by him through 2 1/12 years in the hospital, losing a leg, being in kidney failure and on dialysis, I am only caretaker, pushing wheelchair when my own pain was overwhelming, he chose to laugh at me and now tells me to get the hell out of his lifel We have no family at all to help, I have no clue their problem, but they are not there, his sister says it is too much for her, lol, really, from afar it is too much. The one thing I know is I will not quit, my pets mean the world to me and I have a whole lot more to give in this life TN or not. So now to find a place for me, 3 Saint Bernards and four cats, gee that should be easy, not so much! But like a cat always land on my feet, so will get finances in order, I have none, they are all his, but maybe can walk away with a little, And guess start over, how those you love can hurt you and ya just gotta get back up! Prayers needed, thx!
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I will be praying for you to find relief and a place to go. It's so sad that our invisible disease with its excruciating pain is so misunderstood. If only others could feel it just once, they would understand.
I am also an animal lover. I managed to find a rental that would allow pets. I know it's hard, but maybe you could find something by contacting your local animal shelter. Maybe they know someone who has a house to rent.
Oh Betsy, I’m praying for you!!
Things are said in anger , in the heat of the moment that “we” don’t always mean…of course we say these hurtful things to those closest to us …both of you have health struggles and life is more difficult…especially when it’s just the two of you…curl up with those fur babies of yours for comfort tonight.
I pray the morning looks brighter…
And no, you are NOT a quitter, one moment at a time my friend, sorry you’re hurting…gentle ((( hugs ))), Mimi
I'm sending a humongous hug all the way from Australia. We do really great hugs here! I know that you'll land on your feet! You have the unconditional love of your pets and that beats any old husband! Stay strong. ♡♡♡
You are right, you are a very caring and strong woman. I know you have struggled being his caretaker. I can’t even imagine how hard that must be on top of your own health issues. I hope for the very best for you; if it’s time for your marriage to end or if you are able to patch things up. Whatever the out come is please letting us know how you are doing or if you need a shoulder to cry on, remember we are here for you. Please take care of yourself.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I know what it is like to take care of someone with kidney failure while having TN and it is really hard. After everything you have been through, you don’t deserve this. You will be in my prayers.
Betsy, you are in my thoughts. This is awful for you. I am at a loss for words really. Turn to us, many here are sending cyber hugs. I certainly admire your spirit. Go girl, you are one of life’s winners.
Thank y'all for your prayers and words of support, means so much! Things have calmed some for now. So for now hanging tough in situation. I do okay so much of the time TN pain and all, but I sure have those dark moments, don't we all. But back up and working on my anger management about everything! I know he needs me. Have a prayer walk this weekend in a neighborhood church is trying to revitalize, will be good, get my priorities back in line, quit the pity party and keep on! Thanks again, y'all are just the very best :) Betsy
I am so sorry that you are in this spot. My new marriage rocked some because of TN too. If your husband is truly selfish then you must move to protect half of your marriage assets. I think a church or community group sounds like a good suggestion. Contact the humane society about helping you move with your animals too. Our county does make suggestions and connections for this. I will pray for your transition.
Hi Betsy. I will definitely say prayers for you. Lean on your church group for some good support. And remember, GOD will never leave you or forsake you. I’ll also pray your pain remains manageable through this turmoil. Stress can be a trigger so stay calm and allow those BEAUTIFUL ANIMALS to comfort you and bring you joy. Praying too that you quickly find a good living arrangement. Never forget, God will BLESS YOU for being a selfless caretaker all that time. It may not “seem” like it now, but that’s a promise.