Hi there, So sorry to hear of your trouble with your teeth, I know exactly how you feel.
Firstly you say you had sensitive teeth on lower right jaw. You also say you went to your dentist and she X-rayed the tooth. So was it a tooth that was recognizable giving you pain ?
Could you pin-point which tooth was giving you the sensitivity, was the tooth sensitive to hot or cold food, liquid etc, this does make a big difference to the diagnosis and treatment. Your dentist should firstly have carried out a cold stimulus test to assess the pulp vitality of each suspected tooth along your lower jaw. She would either of used a electric pulp tester probe or a ethyl chloride substance, The most common used is ethyl chloride which is quickly applied to the suspected tooth, once the cold stimulus is applied you should feel a short sharp cold pain, but as soon as the cold stimulus is taken away, the pain should quickly subside. If the cold/pain sensation lingers, this indicates pulpitis, if no sensation then this indicates a non-vital tooth which is not a good sign. You can suffer Reversible Pulpitis and Irreversible Pulpitis, the two conditions are different from one another, Reversible pulpitis is a simply mild inflammation of the dental pulp. It can be caused by anything that irritates the pulp such as cavities that haven't reached the nerve yet. Erosion of the tooth that reaches the dentin. Drilling done by a dentist when doing a filling or crown preparation on the tooth or a fracture of the enamel layer of the tooth which can expose the dentin. Having your teeth cleaned can be a cause that disrupts the pulp, but the pulp tissue normally settles.
You also mention, your dentist made a best guess that it was a big old filled tooth and we decided to open it up. She announced that it looked fine but it was very close to the 'filling' (do you mean nerve) ?
I hope your dentist did not do all this quick thinking method on your first visit, did your dentist carry out any other tests ?
A dentist should only open up an old filling if true signs are showing discomfort, a tooth may be sensitive to pressure, air, sweet foods or hot/cold temperature. An old filling can leak and have underlying decay, but an x-ray would show this, old fillings can also cause the tooth to crack / suffer micro-cracks, which again a good dentist should be able to correctly diagnose this. If your dentist said your tooth looked fine, you really should not have let her open it up, especially what looked like a perfectly good tooth which gave you no pain or discomfort.
I have pretty much suffered facial pain from the age of 12 years old, I had four large Amalgam fillings at age 11 and 12 which went on to have root canal treatment in later life, Around the age of 25 the root canals were failing and I was suffering neurological pain/facial pain which would indicate early TN symptoms from unnecessary dental treatment. Now aged 41 I have had all 3 root canal teeth extracted along with an old filled tooth, I have also had all 4 wisdom teeth extracted even though they were healthy. 10 years on and I am still in pain, more than I have ever been. I suffer TN type 1 and type 2, I strongly believe certain dental treatments can cause TN.
Another idea I have recently found out about is..... We all know Amalgams fillings consist of mercury along with a combination of silver, tin, and copper. Well! I have recently found out that Mercury is a powerful neurotoxin and at certain levels it can cause neurological issues, autoimmune disease, chronic illnesses and mental health disorders. Everyone is exposed to mercury through air, drinking water etc, but how much does the body absorb. When working with mercury the person can suffer several symptoms, these include anxiety, irritability, memory loss, headaches and fatigue.
If I were you, I would have the tooth extracted, this will prevent any further continued pain from any tooth restoration, just make sure your dentist is familiar with extracting teeth, this also can cause/trigger TN pain if the procedure is done wrong or gets complicated.