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hi I hope everyone is ok ,now I have been nice will start whingeing .
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I echo and reinforce Jackie's supportive remarks, Lyn. Stress is definitely an initiator or trigger for TN attacks in many people. Given that your Mom is dealing with dementia, and presumably in a hospital or rest home situation, it may be in order to talk with her attending physician about helping her with tranquilizer meds. And although I understand how guilty some women seem to feel about stepping back from frequent connection to someone whose thinking is so disordered, it may be time for you to think about preserving your own welfare.
Meantime, this isn't to impose my solutions on you, of course. It's been said with justice that women communicate to share problems, and men to solve them. A good many men drive their female friends nuts by trying to solve issues that the women want them to hear without judgment. But there is a middle ground in there somewhere. By all means feel free to vent. But please consider also, taking steps to lower your stress levels.
Go in Peace and Power
Red
hi thanks for the kind words ,I should be used to my mum I lokked after her at her home for 10 years ,but now she is in a nursing home ,and is in hospital after a fall .
It has all been stressful ,I had to sell her house to pay the nursing home bills ,now they have muddled the bills up so much and are threatening me with court action ,I know I have my dates rights so have just sent it all to mum's solicitor to sort out ,can't seem to get it out of my head though .
However ,told the hospital I am too old to be crying in hospital car parks ,so will not be going to the hospital again ,she should be home soon ,and my daughter will come with me to visit her in the nursing home .
Sorry I know this is nothing to do with TN ,I hope everyone is having a good day xx
sorry meant to say she has just had her meds adjusted …that’s why she had a fall was dizzy ,can’t win x
lynda brown said:
hi thanks for the kind words ,I should be used to my mum I lokked after her at her home for 10 years ,but now she is in a nursing home ,and is in hospital after a fall .
It has all been stressful ,I had to sell her house to pay the nursing home bills ,now they have muddled the bills up so much and are threatening me with court action ,I know I have my dates rights so have just sent it all to mum's solicitor to sort out ,can't seem to get it out of my head though .
However ,told the hospital I am too old to be crying in hospital car parks ,so will not be going to the hospital again ,she should be home soon ,and my daughter will come with me to visit her in the nursing home .
Sorry I know this is nothing to do with TN ,I hope everyone is having a good day xx
I am sorry to hear of your mom and dementia. Even tho you know that she doesn't mean what she is saying. It still hurts!! Just as when people get a cold and they are achey all over....every little bump hurts more!!! We have TN and everything effects us, cause we are already IN excruciating pain. It's ok to cry. This is NOT your every day pain that we deal with. Very hard not to cry. I got stressed out last night at work and I notice how it effects the pain. Stress is not a good thing for us, but unfortunately, we have to have some in our lives. I am thinking I may go to the doc and ask him for something to take when the stress aggravates my pain. I hope you feel better soon and I wish you well.
Peace, Min
Min, a one-time low dose of Valium is often effective for the type of intervention in stress you seem to be talking about. And Lynda, a big part of the site mission is helping members cope with stresses that aggravate their pain. So it's not off-topic to talk about the wear and tear that an aging parent may create in our lives.
Go in Peace and Power
Red