Hi Suzy,
Thanks for your reply, you sure do sound as though you've gone through a lot in the past without havin this sprung on you now to add to things, I guess you ask the same questions as many of us do....why me, surely I can't have this, this is something which happens to others who we don't know......well I guess we're now one of those others that other people don't know ha ha! (although I know it isn't funny! I wrote to Daybreak a couple of months ago one moring when i was feeling so frustrated with the condition and I'd felt that they were covering so much about body dismorphia and anoxia etc, I know these are important but so is this condition and nobody recognises it (i know I'd never heard of it before i was diagnosed with it), anyway i received a lovely personal reply saying that if Dr Hilarys team decide to feature a story on it then they might contact me again.....I haven't heard anything since so I guess i won't either ha ha!
When i worked for the CMHT, I had a lady on my caseload (I'm a social worker but worked alongside, doing the same job as the CPN's) who pulled out her hair and her eyebrows, you can imagine when she walked in with this lovely head of hair, fashionable hairstyle, I thought that it can't have been that bad. We were sat talking when she said very tearfully that she can't stop pulling her hair out and that she done this from a very young age, I was confused as her hair was lovely, she then went to grab her hair, my heart fell to my stomach and i thought please don't do it in front of me, and as she pulled at her hair, off it came, it was a wig and she was totally bald with just a few whispy bits left. I couldn't believe my eyes that someone had done this to herself but it was her way of coping, she was told that because she had done it for so ;ong that her hair would never grow back, I really felt for her as underneath she was a lovely woman, just very badly damaged! I've kin of lost my thread now and the point I was trying to make, (meds for you) but hopefully you'll work out the underlying message!!!!
I used to suffer with alopecia in patches when I got stressed, the first time was in my school days and the GP treated me initially for ringworm, but the patches just kept on getting bigger and bigger, I've not had this hair loss for years now but my eldest daughter has followed suit and she gets it a lot worse than I ever did, she's coming up 28 in dec. I have 3 children, 2 girls and a boy, I have 1 grandson, Jack, who I absolutely adore, he's 11 months. I'm not sure if I've said but I have another 2 grandsons coming, one next month, and Jacks baby brother will be with us in Dec, so Carrie will have her hands full!
I got a call from Mr Prasads secretary yesterday informing me that my surgery has been schedueled for next wed 31st, I broke down after the call, the reality of it setting in i think, although i knew it was coming, it didn't make things easier for me but i do know it is the right decision for me especially if I want to ever function as I did pre-TN!
The decoratings coming on quite well now, the walls are all now painted and I only have the glossing to do now, then to go and chose a new carpet, my parents treat as I wasn't going to get one, so that was a nice suprise to end the day on yesterday!
Try not to worry too much about your MRI, they'll take it into consideration and hopefully the tingling will only be a slight tinggling for you but please do let me know how you get on. I;m going to the lakes on Sunday, coming back on Monday (a belated anniversary present from my eldest daughter) but I'll try and get on the site on Monday when I get back and will def get on it before my surgery on Wed!
I'm a bit like you I can, at times, waffle on forever, so I should go now as i've probably bored you silly by now. But just for the record you can waffle on to me and others on here for as long as you want, no-one minds abit like buzzby used to say ha ha! (I hope you can remember the buzzby adverts otherwise you won't get that!)
Take care and fingers crossed for Sunday for you, I will be thinking of you!
Mandy : )
suzy1 said:
Hi Mandy - it seems we have a few things in common, both having worked for the NHS and I used to work for the local CMHT in Skipton before moving to a GP practice as medical secretary! How strange! Like you say, it is kind of comforting to be living fairly close to someone else who has this awful condition and can understand how dreadful it is. Good luck with the decorating, I guess you're keeping busy before the MVD as well as sprucing everything up. I do hope things go well for you. I have heard of the James Cook hospIital (through work), I gather they have a very good reputation.
I guess I'm hoping that the MRI will show something very obvious that could maybe be dealt with, and I guess it is fortunate in a way for you that the arteries showed up on your scans (if anything about this disease could possibly be called 'fortunate'!) You sound to have had a bad time of it with the locum GP. I've only seen 2, both young and very pleasant but the first one was not as informed as my current one. The one I'm seeing regularly is not my own GP but I'm definitely going to 'adopt' her as mine if I can. She asked me when i first saw her after describing these weird electrical sensations on the right side of my face what I thought it was - so I told her I was convinced it was trigeminal neuralgia(after I had done a lot of googling), and she just nodded! I think the first GP thought maybe it was, but was not going to admit it!
Interesting you say you can't get on with any of the medications - Carbamazepine and Gabapentin made me really ill, but Pregabalin is certainly doing the trick with the pain (it's the side effects of being so dopey that I can't stand!) Like you, I just want my life back. I have 2 daughters and a grandson of 13 who lives with his mum in the Orkneys, so my poor husband is on his own trying to come to terms with the sudden change in me! Unfortunately he tends to avoid anything medical if he can! so it's not very easy for him (or me!) at present.
I'm so glad I found this website, it's really a godsend, as other people just don't understand it (no wonder!). Already the help and companionship I've found have been invaluable. It does help to hear other people's experiences too.
I am a little concerned about the MRI however, as I have another medical condition (alopecia areata), so after years of battling with it and having painful injections into the scalp to try and make the hair grow back, things got a lot worse and I lost all my hair. I've now had to wear a wig for roughly 3 years. Worse than that I then lost my eyebrows - and believe me it's not easy trying to put eyebrows on yourself first thing in the morning before work! So, I plucked up the courage and had semi-permanent makeup done in Leeds (which is very effective and trouble-free) - eyebrows and eyeliner (top and bottom lids). However, when I had it done I was given a sheet with instructions, which also said if I ever needed an MRI scan I would need to tell the radiologist as apparently it shows up on the MRI, and can cause some' tingling'. I understand there is some kind of metal involved in the makeup. I have informed the department, but will have to wait and see what happens when I go for the MRI - I hope it won't be too unpleasant and that they can carry out what they need to do. To cap it all (excuse the pun) I'll have to have the MRI minus the wig as that also contains some metal! Brilliant eh?
Anyway, I've also waffled on for long enough - hope the decorating is coming along nicely, best wishes,
Suzy
Mandy said:
Hi Suzy, I know what you mean about paying privately and it going against the grain, I felt exactly the same way as I worked in an intergrated mental health team (with the NHS TEWV) and i hated having to pay for something which we should get free. Like yourself, I just couldn't wait 3 months to be seen so we paid. I went to York as I was told that they had a good Neurology department and my neurologist was a lovely guy.
My GP was great with me and diagonosed me with TN straight away so I guess I was lucky but then I had to see a locum doctor who was horrible and told me to go back to the dentist, he also changed my medication against what the lead GP had prescribed for me! I came out in tears as I was in so much pain and at that point so confused. I had a conversation with Jackie and others on here who advised me to go back and see my own GP as I was uncontrolably upset, I did and he wasn't impressed with the outcome of the locum dr.
You sound like you've had a pretty bad deal so far so hopefully now you will receive the right treatment for your TN. I had an MRI in Dec but when I was referred to the Neurosurgeon he arranged a further MRI and then a few days later I had to go for an MRA circle of willis non-contrast scan. I suffer with bilateral TN and I guess lucky for me, arteries were seen on both sides pressing on the TN, on the right it's looped around it apparently so at least they can see what they will be working with......I hope!!!
It was suggested that I need the MVD's as I just can't tolerate any of the medications, had I been able to tolerate the meds then I'm not sure i would have agreed to the MVD's but I don't see that I have any other option if I want to function as i used to again. I feel this illness has wiped out my life at the moment, my daughter had her first baby last Dec and I was unable to help out as I was a total zombie at that time and couldn't be trusted with him, I've got two more granchildren coming, one in Nov and the next in Dec and I really want to be able to help out with these but I feel that having the MVD now, I may have to accept that i won't be able to, but we'll see, I'm not giving up hope ha ha!
I'm having my MVD at James Cook University Hospital in Middlesbrough and it seems as though there is a very good team who will be doing it so I'm trying not to worry about it to much. I've been very busy decorating the house, I think to keep my mind of it and I'm starting with the hallway tomorrow.....against my husbands request, but I just feel as though I need to do it!
Skipton isn't that far away from Thirsk, I don't think, I'm about 24 miles away from York, we're kind of in the middle of York and Middlesbrough. I think you're the closest member to me everyone else I've met have lived miles away, it's kind of comforting knowing there is someone with this condition closer to me, although I'm sorry that you do have it and wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy!
I hope your MRI goes well for you on Sunday and please let us know how you get on.
I feel as though I have waffeled on long enough so I'll go for now
Take care and keep in touch
Mandy : )
suzy1 said:
Hi Mandy, thanks for answering again. I live in Skipton, so i guess we're not so far away from each other. I don't know Thirsk - you're over near York I think? Paying privately goes against the grain with me really, as I'm a medical secretary within the NHS and I'm used to arranging referrals and sorting out the problems that crop up along the way for other people! However the week I had to chase up the NHS system to find out about being seen I was at my wits end. I was in so much pain and nobody was listening to me on the phone. At my GP practice the secretary was really helpful, however I was given the name of the neurologist in Leeds via the helpline for TNA after i phoned them for help when I was really upset. A guy from Devon (I think) rang me back- one of the TNA members who man the phone-line (before i even became a member, so I'm really grateful to them). I ended up talking to his secretary in Leeds (in tears) who put me in for an appointment the following Monday. He was lovely, and said he would arrange an urgent MRI and follow up on the NHS, so I have the MRI this Sunday morning! I guess I'm hoping it might show something up that can be fixed, but probably shouldn't get my hopes up! How did they decide that an MDV might be the correct treatment for you? Did you have an MRI done?
Mandy said:
Hi Suzy, like yourself, I had to pay privately to see a Neurologist as the waiting list was so long. I went to York and but after several apointments again paying privately, he referred me to a Neurosurgeon in Middlesbrough. Due to my non-tolerance of the meds I am having an MVD later this month. i'm not really looking forward to this as I know I have to go through the procedure twice as I suffer with TN on both sides (Arrrrrgh ha ha!).
I remember being in the same place as you are now, just wishing I could feel 'norma' again but time passed me by so quickly and here I am a year later feeling a lot better but still unsteady, memory loss and word searching is still problamatic for me, although it isn't as bad as it was initially but I've reached a stage where I'm not getting any better with it but nor am I getting worse....if that all makes sense to you! I think what I'm trying to say is you just have to go with it, unfortunately, it will be what it will be! You will go through many emotions with this illness including anger, I remember being very angry when I was first told that i would be losing my job, I wanted to scream and shout and cry as it wasn't fair that this was taking away everything I have ever worked for. I am very lucky though that I have a very supportive husband who has stood by me through all of this, it has really tested our relationship as we only got married in Aug 2011 and I came down with TN in Oct 2011, so what a honeymoon period we have had! Support fro people on here has also helped, especially through those days when you just feel so alone, angry etc!
My advice to you is to use this site as much and as often as you want as there is always someone there to give you answers, advice or just a listening ear, be it virtual one but from those who are in the same position and know just how you are felling (I know I've gone around the houses there but word block strikes again!!!).
Where abouts in North Yorkshire are you from, I'm in Thirsk, if you know where that is.....North Yorkshire is a large county to live in ha ha!
Hope you're feeling a little better today : )