Good morning. I am new here and trying to figure it all out!

Hi. I am glad to find all of you! The story is long but I feel better putting it all down. So I guess I will jump right in...

My son, now 22 yrs old, was admitted to the hospital in Jan 2012 with horrible pain in his head. It turned out he had a raging infection, which was eating away the brain dura, as well as a huge Cholesteotoma, a benign tumor that eats away at the ear bones. The infection had created some blood clots in his Venous Sinus for good measure. He spent a week in the neuro ICU while the ENT surgeon and the neurosurgeon debated and disagreed about what to do with him. They finally agreed on surgery to remove the Cholesteotoma and clear out the infection. Surgery was successful, they put in a PICC line and sent us home. Everything settled down, yet his pain continued. His surgeon said there was no reason for him to be in so much pain and told him to get off the pain meds and on with his life and he'd feel better. He'd see him in 6 months for a "second look" surgery to be sure the tumor was completely gone because there was so much infection that he couldn't be sure.

About a week after coming home, he started having seizure-like or TIA-like symptoms. No one could tell us what they were or what to do about them. We saw neuro, who ruled out seizures.

All the while he was in profound pain. He would describe it as lightning shocks into his ear and deep into his head. He would have numbness and tingling all down his right side and sharp searing pain in his cheek. He also has the "normal" 24/7 headache. Docs couldn't find a good reason for it and recommended a psychiatrist. Finally I went outside the hospital system and found him a pain management doc. He was, and is, wonderful, though couldn't figure Jess out either. He tried every possible opiate, short and long-acting combinations, Lyrica, nortriptaline, migraine meds, you name it, Jess tried it. But at least, through it all, he never questioned his pain.

Second surgery in July, 2012. Cholesteotoma had regrown to the size it was before. This time he said he was confident he got it all. So we thought maybe his pain was from that. Onward and forward. He healed from the surgery but the pain stayed. He decided that short-acting oxy worked best for him, so he takes 30mgs, 5 times a day. He manages okay with that. He is driving again and trying to cope each day in horrible pain.

So Friday was our regular visit with he pain doc to refill his script. We were talking about the possible causes of his pain. I got home and pulled out all of his old MRI reports, CT reports, doctors notes and started reading trough it all again. Then I started googling. Well the google searches led me to Trigeminal Neuralgia. I COULDN'T BELIEVE MY EYES!! I was reading a synopsis of my son's pain to a T. You could put his picture under the description. I was so happy to finally find a reasonable explanation for all of this hell! Of course it was the weekend, nothing I could do. I will be calling his doc Monday morning and faxing him bunches of info!

I have a few possible explanations for what might be going on, Cholesteotoma sitting on trigeminal nerve? Infection wore sheath of nerve? Nerve nicked during surgeries? Blood clot sitting on nerve? He is having another surgery in a few weeks for the cholesteotoma and his blood clots are still there, though stable, they are in proximity to the trigeminal nerve, from what I can see of diagrams. So any of these seem to be conceivable.

We have been through hell these past months. He has been suicidal, depressed, angry, sad. He dropped out of school, and has absolutely zero quality of life. This experience has eaten away at our family bit by bit.

TODAY, I HAVE HOPE, and that is a wonderful thing! Thanks for listening! Any advise, suggestions about what has helped, or your stories is greatly appreciated. Meanwhile I'll just be reading some more!

Mercedes

Sorry for the typos! I HATE typos! :)

Hi there --- glad you found us --- you can learn more here in 2 weeks than you can in months of waiting for doctors to figure stuff out! OH and if you hate typos you should not come here LOL -- many are on meds that typos are now a way of life.!!!!

I would do two things first

Get a topical lidocaine patches prescription called in ASAP -- put on face - instant relief for many ---- may be able to lower narcotic...

If embarrassed to wear white patch - that you cut to whatever size you want, there is a clear cream, - I have both depending on what I have planned... but cream is not as strong.

Get the book "Striking Back" by Dr. Ken Casey on amazon - it's our bible here and fullll of options!

Read/ask/learn Repeat!

PS - under the groups tab - if your son is interested.... there is a chat/message board for 20 somethings!

God bless, hope you get the right meds to help him !

Gosh, your son has had so much to deal with.

As KC dancer said, never worry about the typos, most of my writing is a jumbled mess and nobody here will mind or try to correct your grammar and spelling. Thank goodness!!!
I would also encourage you to get “striking back” it is s very helpful book and I still drag it out and refer to it often.

I know your son has tried lots of different medications but have they tried combinations of meds, for me that has worked much better than individual meds.

I am so sorry that your son is having to face all these health problems at such a young age, as a mum of a young man the same age I cannot imagine having to watch my son in so much pain.

Sending you and your son hugs
Trish

I remember when I first read the online description of this disease...it was scary, like I had wrote the thing myself. After some of the shock wore off I started to realize that so many little things, minor annoyances, seem to be tied into this fun little disorder. It is good to know I am not alone. It is reassuring to know I am not the only person the doctors look at with one raised eyebrow like I am crazy. And it's even better to know that I am not crazy.While I have not found much in the way of relief, i too have hope......and strength beyond what I may have thought was even possible. Welcome Mercedes, you are not alone, neither is your son. He should consider joining here as well. Support is not easy to find locally for this as it is a fairly rare disorder.

Welcome Mercedes. I'm sorry your son and family have been through so much. What a great mom and advocate you are for him. It is amazing the first time you read a description of this disease. I remember it was me to a T as well. I thought if only I had known earlier. It really does make a difference when you feel like you're not alone. This site has helped me a ton.

I hope your son finds relief in a combination of meds very soon. Healing thoughts sent your way.

Thank you all for the replies! I hate to say I am excited for the morning, it just doesn't feel right, but I am. I appreciate all of your comments and suggestions. I will try to get him to sign on here, I think you all could help him so much. He gets upset when I suggest support. I will let you know what the dr says tomorrow.

Welcome to the group! Sorry your son has such a painful disease! Just keep encouraging him (I had a Cholesteotoma on my ear drum and am half deaf with ten surgeries on my ears, eight being on my bad side. I can understand some of what he has gone through) and never give up!

Your son is very lucky to have such a great Mom! I too, am so sorry for all you have been through. I went 3 years without being diagnosed and it was pure hell. So when you find an answer it helps a lot. You can live with TN, at first it does seem overwhelming, I have good and bad days. I think most of us here have experienced all the emotions your son is. I will admit I struggle with anger and sadness on my bad days. This group is wonderful and I know for some it is hard to seek support, but I think he would find this group most helpful. When you have something they call rare it is not easy to find understanding of it, but you sure do here! I am sorry for all your family has and is enduring, but glad that you found this group. As stated keep on, may take a few tries, but you can find a doctor that knows about TN and understands it. At 52 my hubby is now permanetly disabled, was in the hospital & skilled care for 2 1/2 years, (leg amputated, kidney failure, in wheelchair) so no one understands about finding the right DRs more than I! Some days it is most hard to be care taker in pain. Please let us know how things are going and know we are all here for you and your family. God Bless.