Can someone just stop the world and I'll get off???? I hate the cold, used to love it, hate the wind, never used to bother me. Just frustrated with pain and life, this too shall pass~~
I never used to love the cold - not unless it's over 90 outside - then I'm seeking cold air! Of course indirect breeze of cold air!
I just posted a poll about climate and temperature -- it is affecting my quality of life! I lovvvvved the wind in my hair for decades - now it brings me PTSD!
Just wanted to let you know you are not out there alone : )
Roll on summer love. Here in the UK we have had a 2.5 year long winter. I long to feel the warmth on my skin.
((( hugs)))
Mimi xx
agreed...waiting for summer. A nice breeze-less and warm summer day on the patio.
~Mistee
Thanks everyone for the encouragement. I have a major amount of stress right now so that doesn't help either. I just hate how life is with this stupid tn. I am afraid that if I call me dr my meds will be upped and put me even more out of it. So right now I am just trying to maintain. My kids are so getting the short end. I hate this. gggrrr. Ok one thing I am thankful for today.... I am thankful that I have an unending amount of laundry to do, as it means my family has clothes to wear, towels to dry off with, and i have a washer and dryer that are great! I do not miss my laundry mat days of old~30yrs ago, 2 babies, counting my quarters ;-) blessings all~~not sure what I would do without a place to vent!!
I tell people, just as soldiers say there are no strangers in foxholes, there are also no strangers amongst those who suffer severe pain. Together, we will travel this journey with strength and perseverance.
One day about a year ago, my primary care physician of several years said to me, when we finally decided I had done all there was to seek pain relief treatments, "Judi, it's time to lay that down. Medicine has nothing more to offer you. Now your focus is to find the things that give your life meaning and focus on those."
He was right. Of course, I still take medication, and there are some tried and true therapies I utilize such as therapeutic massage, and some chiropractic adjustments to ease tension from ongoing pain...but overall, I manage my pain by managing my lifestyle, and by having become a different person.
I no longer long to be "fixed" but to be made anew.
For what it's worth--
Judi
(One of the ways I've been made anew--I've developed a blog to encourage people who have severe pain. It can be found through this wonderful site as well.)
Thank you Judi, very much. I am heading to bed with this thought :-) blessings~~
You're not kidding about the long winter Jackie - but today in North Yorkshire we actually have SUNSHINE AND BLUE SKY !! Miracles do happen!! Suzy
Jackie said:
Roll on summer love. Here in the UK we have had a 2.5 year long winter. I long to feel the warmth on my skin.
Wow...I really waxed philosophical above. Was in that kind of "mood" yesterday. I'll try not to be so "deep" all the time.
It was a beautiful day here in VA too..what a wonderful break! I talked my husband into letting me pack him a picnic lunch (well shouldn't call it that--it was only a PB&J sandwich!) and meeting him up for a walk outside! (Something I cannot do in the cold)! Plus, since I can NEVER get him to leave the office--it was a real delight for both of us.
Course it's back to the cold tomorrow...but was a nice reminder that the sun will warm again. I sure hope it does in the UK too!
The sun was out today, gave the illusion that it was spring. Unfortunately when I walked outside it was so dang cold!! The daffodils are blooming so spring can't be too far away! Keep looking forward that's for sure!! blessings~~
I agree, I'd like the world to stop, and get off. The cold, the wind, any breeze. We live in the forest, so shade even in the summer, but I used to love gardening, weeding etc. Now it's a rare day in the summer when I can go out. When ever there is a "Home Show" in the next town, I always spend time in the sauna's that they are trying to sell..oh that hot dry heat is soooo nice!
Some weeks I'm dwelling on TN and other's I'm better at seeing the positive. It's an up and down world.
I used to love gardening too but now have to be so careful about bending over. And swimming in the ocean! My favourite and that I think is gone forever.
As for gardening though, on calm days I slip out at about 6am, all bundled up, before pain sets in for the day and do a little gardening very slowly and carefully. I need to feed my soul. I still need to get my hands on the earth. I have a “bucket-a-day” rule so I don’t get carried away and set myself up for a bad day.
The daffs are up here but not blooming yet. Spring is coming and it will be a blessing.
Bella
Bellalarke--You and I sound like two peas in a pod. I could have written that post myself. Love gardening--can't bend over; love swimming--can't bear the cold. . "I still need to get my hands on the earth" made my spirit leap and brought tears to my eyes--expresses my heart exactly!!!!!
Yes, exactly! I have a bucket that I will fill--just enough clean-up to do. I also have an out-door clock (all weather kind) that I must note--because if you are like me time disappears. And I have to keep water close-at hand. All my garden tools are in a small bucket now too--and I bought a good easy-pull garden wagon to tote. So no more back and forth walks to my garden shed. Just one walk to pull out all I need. Keep it simple.
I took a photo last Sunday of the first bloom I found--it was a tiny purple flower on some ground cover. My daffs aren't up yet, but a neighbor's yard is full of blooms--she gets more sun than I do--and is able to fight the voles better! I don't use pesticides.
One idea for you--this year I will only grow my vegetable garden on my deck--I'm going to set up some kind of table--perhaps using old singer-sewing machine bases like I saw on Pinterest to put pots on so that I don't have to bend over. And just grow some fav veggies. And smaller pots of herbs.
Also, even though I no longer swim in the ocean...I now kayak ON the ocean. It requires surprisingly little strength, since, over the years I have lost so much muscle due to the lack of activity pain has imposed upon my life. It is a true joy--I never imagined a large almond-shaped piece of plastic would bring me such joy. And here in Virginia, at Va. Beach, we have loads and loads of dolphins!
I miss so many things...thank you for reminding me of what new things and different things I CAN do!
Bellalarke said:
I used to love gardening too but now have to be so careful about bending over. And swimming in the ocean! My favourite and that I think is gone forever.
As for gardening though, on calm days I slip out at about 6am, all bundled up, before pain sets in for the day and do a little gardening very slowly and carefully. I need to feed my soul. I still need to get my hands on the earth. I have a "bucket-a-day" rule so I don't get carried away and set myself up for a bad day.
The daffs are up here but not blooming yet. Spring is coming and it will be a blessing.
Bella
(P.S. That's my grand-daughter who, thank God, CAN bend down to smell the flowers!)
Judi - so happy to see your post. And your granddaughter too! Children and flowers such an expression of pure joy. I do love to kayak too, have had a little pink one for years, but have not used it in a while so thanks for that reminder. Yes, that kind of contact with the water is fabulous, you’re on the water but a little in it as well. No dolphins near where I live, but still lots of other creatures around. I love the birds and feeding them brings me a lot of happiness too.
I have also thought of doing veggies in pots up on an old table but am trying to sell my place so will not add extra to the upkeep. Your spring is way ahead of mine but the moss is growing like mad and that is a little kind of pleasure too, just observing.
Small gardening bucket, easier tote, all these things can be managed. It takes effort to change but it pays off.
Happy days.
Hi Shepherdgirl, if you see my post "checking in", you will see that I too had to give up on the cold, it freakin hurts. I have learned though that we can't let what bothers us get to us. This is our life right now. There are things we can't do but a whole lot more things we still can. Try to keep your head up and enjoy everything you can, let the rest roll off your back. Keep talking and letting out feelings, I believe it is a big help.
Take care of you, Linda
aaaahhhh Linda! Perfect. Today was a really hard day. Thinking that I need to find a new dr. I am now trying to refocus myself. Not sure how all it's going to work out. It is a help. Knowing that I am not the only one is huge, regardless of what my dr says! That's another thread lol! blessings~~