Hello, Nir.
It seems to me that our symptoms are very much alike. Two statements you made hit very close to home as far as what I feel on a day to day basis.
1) "the pain is also in the ear, throat on one side. there are areas in the GUMS that if only touched - makes the pain worse. sometimes i can even CLOSE my mouth..." .
2) "my upper mouth burns.. and the gums.. and teeth."
It has taken me 8 years to get to where you are in 1.5 years. Maybe, the difference lies in the fact that whatever causes my pain was not pinpointed as being caused by a dental procedure, or any other specific trauma.
You also say, "i fought - and wanted to find the cause for it and cure it. nobody can live with that constant pain 24/7 . nobody." and also "my brain is like on fire from bieng in this hellish situation."
Recently, my condition has worsened to the point that merely speaking triggers flare-ups which last for hours. Like you, I'm looking for answers, and have been for years now.
For quite a long time, opoid medication helped me to live a more normal life. Recently, no doctor will prescribe anything strong enough to help me with the levels of pain I am now experiencing, so I live in almost 24/7 pain.
Red knows about facial pain and all of it's many distinctions inside and out. He's somewhat of a specialist, not a doctor, but the most knowledgeable person I know on the subject. I think his advice to you is sound.
I've already tried most of the medications he has listed, but if you have not tried anti-convulsive drugs, you should give it a try.
I've tried almost everything I know of and am now wondering about Motor Cortex Stimulation (implants).
Being in the same boat, I have no useful information for you, as I am on the same slippery slope as of late. However, I had to respond to your post, if for no other reason but to tell you that you are not alone. It can feel hellish. It sounds to me as if you have many Type II symptoms, regardless of how it was caused. The reason for your pain allows Red to further categorize your condition as "iatrogenic trigeminal neuropathic pain", but if you have not joined our TN Type II group, I would like to see you join. Although I started the group, I learn a lot from being a member.
As a spiritual person, and a sister to you in pain, I will be remembering you in prayer. We may be of different beliefs. I don't know. But, since the healthcare system is currently failing me, I've turned to my God for comfort. My children also help get me through. I relate so much with what you say. The pain your feeling in your mouth breaks my heart, because I suffer with the same symptoms and it's maddening, no doubt.
Just let this letter serve as one of kinsmanship and support.
Remember, one day at a time . . .one at a time, friend.
Your friend,
Stef